Lesson # 21: From Ted and Barney
I dug up my old pirated DVD’s of How I Met Your Mother because I wanted to refresh myself with the story as I try to catch up with the current episodes and lo and behold I got a lesson to write for my blog! Yey!
To put things into context, this dialogue is between Ted and Barney during a scene when Barney, Marshall, Lilly and Robin are trying to convince Ted not to go out with his doctor, Bella, because it was bound to fail anyway. The arguments of Barney and Friends come from a simple rule: The Platinum Rule
(excerpts from season 3 episode 11)
Barney: “Ted! Have you not been listening?! Attraction, Bargaining, Submission, Perks, Tipping Point, Purgatory, Confrontation and Fallout! These things will all happen to you as surely as they happened to all of us! It’s a rule of nature!!”
Ted: Well I’m sick of all the rules! There’s too many of them! “The Hot and Crazy Scale”, “The Lemon Law”, “The Platinum Rule”; If everyone in the world followed every one of your rules, the human race would cease to exist. Yes, chances are, Bella and I are not going to live happily ever after; the overwhelming odds have me ending badly and when that happens it will be for one of a million possible reasons but that doesn’t mean I’m not going to try. and when it does fail, so help me God, it’s not going to be because of some rule.
There go the friends mentioning all the possible things that could go wrong and all the “rules” that would make it seem like any effort whatsoever would be futile.
There goes Ted, stubborn enough not to listen to them and still actually goes for Bella.
At the end of the day, Ted was unable to win Bella love and affection and to be technical about it, his friends were right; but Ted did something not a lot of us can actually do especially if confronted and held back by all the rules made up by this world – he tried.
I am no rule-breaker. I don’t go out there deliberately breaking any rule that I see and I hear of. I do, however, tend to question many of these as I’ve learned not to take any of these rules matter-of-factly.
Because the only person who can really tell us who to love and who not to love would be ourselves. We must not let anything nor anyone, nor any tradition, more so any rule, tell us that we cannot go for what we want.
For the world is filled with prejudicial rules, we must proceed with reason.
Ted said it all and he said it beautifully: “the overwhelming odds have me ending badly and when that happens it will be for one of a million possible reasons but that doesn’t mean I’m not going to try. and when it does fail, so help me God, it’s not going to be because of some rule.”
Looking back at my own life, people have told me to stop, to give up, to not even bother to try because they know I will fail and that they know I am bound to get myself hurt. However, as with Ted, I am stubborn and I continue my own search for love and meaning with the hopes that one day I’ll be able to tell a beautiful story – one that is of my own. My story wouldn’t be one that is perfect with no sad heartbreaks and everything else; mine would be full of adventure, struggles, heartaches, heart-warmers, and memories that are either priceless or something to forget-but-can’t-seem-to-forget. Seemingly perfect because of its imperfections.
It wouldn’t be a story created by any rule but rather it would be one that was created and fashioned because I was not afraid to try. 🙂