Lesson # 17: From facing problems
“The turning point in the process of growing up is when you discover the core of strength within you that survives all hurt”. ~ (Max Lerner, The Unfinished Country, 1950)
Problems wouldn’t go away, we just have to learn to deal with them. 🙂
Number 1: Face the brutal truth – Sugarcoating the reality or sandwiching them between half-truths or whole lies would only eventually worsen the problem. It’s going to be brutal and it’s going to hurt, but it has to be faced. Thus the saying “The truth hurts.” More than anything, you have to realize that there is a problem.
Number 2: Confront and Accept the brutal truth. To confront means to go directly to the root cause of the “problem”; and once you know what it is and you’ve confronted it, accept it. Do not reject it nor make excuses. Excuses only make us feel good about ourselves. Accusing others only relieves us of the blame. Justifying things only protect us, albeit temporarily, from the pain. Reject/neglect it and it will only come back with twice as many teeth to hurt you.
“Watch a man in times of adversity to discover what kind of man he is; for then at last words of truth are drawn from the depths of his heart, and the mask is torn off.” ~Lucretius, On the Nature of Things
Number 3: Act. Act on solving the problem. It’s hard though, partly because we are afraid to fail, partly because we are afraid to try, partly because we don’t know what to do. But once we get to accept the truth, confront it and accept the fact that something must be done and indeed we act on it, then we’ll be all right.
and just for a little inspiration…
“I know God will not give me anything I can’t handle. I just wish that He didn’t trust me so much.” ~Mother Teresa
and for a little humor… see how Basha confronts the brutal truth. HAHAHA. Drama e. (sorry meron pa akong OPM and Local Movie High!) 😀
I’m not an expert at solving problems and stuff, these are just what I’ve learned as I experienced them in my own life. I’m sure you have your own way of doing things. 🙂